A Key to Success

By Emma Wortt

‘Success is often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.’ – Coco Chanel.

How’s your internal negative voice today? You know the one. The one that tells you things like ‘that’ll never work’, ‘that’s a stupid idea’, ‘who on Earth would want to buy this stuff from you?’, ‘you really think you can run your own business—who are you kidding?’, ‘there are so many other businesses like yours out there, being run by better people with more experience and knowledge—you haven’t got a chance’, ‘that’s a ridiculous goal, it’s too big—you’ve got no hope of ever reaching it.’

The good news is it’s not just you, most of us have got those voices. And what do we do about it? Unfortunately we tend to listen, and even worse—believe them!

The great news is that you can do something about it! Think of a project you’ve been mulling over. You think it’s a great idea and could be a fantastic success but you’ve been holding back on it.

What’s stopping you? Is that that voice inside your head telling you that failure is inevitable?

There are some powerful questions you can ask yourself which will help you to silence that voice.

Make sure you can remain undisturbed for a few minutes so that you can truly let your mind concentrate and open up to new thoughts. You may find a pen and paper useful to jot down any ideas that come to you. Then ask yourself the following questions. Really take your time in answering them, ensure you explore every possibility.

- What’s stopping me from moving forward with this idea/project?

- If there were no obstacles in the way, what would I do?

- If the voice is wrong, what would that mean? What effect would that have?

- What evidence do I have, based on past occurrences, that the voice could be wrong about this?

- The part of me that this voice represents is trying to protect me. And I thank it for that. How would that part of me react if I, having taken everything into consideration, gave this project a go?

- Does that part of me agree that it’s worth trying?

- If I knew I could not fail, what would I do?

When we try something new it is often the case that it doesn’t work perfectly first time. The people to whom Coco Chanel was referring either don’t have that negative internal voice telling them it won’t work or, more likely, they have learnt to control it. The result is that they go ahead. And if it doesn’t quite work they still don’t listen to the voice. What they do instead is make some changes and try again. Making changes is essential. After all ‘if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got.’ And if it still doesn’t quite work, they make some more changes and try again. And so on until, inevitably, they succeed.


© Emma Wortt of Em-powering U, April 2008. All Rights Reserved.
Emma Wortt is a qualified Professional Coach and NLP Practitioner. She runs her business Em-powering U to coach and support those who have started or who want to start their own small business. If that’s you and you would like to read more articles like this one you can sign up for the Em-powering U FREE newsletter at http://www.em-powering-u.co.uk

Reach that Goal!

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try one more time” – Thomas Edison (1847-1931)


When Thomas Edison was inventing the electric light bulb he certainly had his work cut out for him. Believe it or not after trying 10,000 times he had still not got a working bulb. And his response to someone who suggested he had failed…? – ‘I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.’ What happened after that? He succeeded.

How many times would you try to make something work in your career, team or business? 2 or 3 times? 5 times? 10 times? Do you keep going with an idea for as long as Edison? Would you keep trying after all those ‘failures’?

No? Why not? Perhaps because most of us would lose faith in our idea or our ability to pull it off, lose motivation, decide it’s just not possible.

So what was Edison’s secret? How did he maintain his enthusiasm for and belief in his idea for so long and to such an outstanding level? How did he stay motivated?

First of all he must have truly believed his goal was possible for him to reach, he must have truly wanted to reach it and he must have known why he wanted to reach it.

Then there is a clue in that response ‘I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.’ Every time he tried a way that did not work he quite simply did not see that as a failure.

And he was right. It wasn’t a failure because he now knew one more way that did not work. He had gained knowledge from the attempt. Perhaps he might work out one reason why it did not work and make an alteration accordingly for the next attempt. And that would take him one step closer to his goal.

And that’s one of the key messages here. It’s not just ‘don’t give up – keep going’, but also crucially ‘if it’s not working change the way you’re doing it!’ After all if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.

So if you’ve been struggling to see eye to eye with a member of staff – change your approach. If you are consistently unable to get out of the office before 7pm every night – make changes to your working methods. If your team aren’t all pulling together in the same direction – make changes to your management style.

Think of something you are struggling with at the moment and ask yourself the following questions:

* ‘What is stopping me from moving forward with this?’ Make a list.

* ‘What are the possible ways round the obstacles?’ Make a list.

* ‘What could I try differently this time?’ Make a list.

* ‘What am I going to try differently this time?’ Commit to taking action and give yourself a realistic but challenging deadline for it.

And if you reach the point of giving up remember another gem from Thomas Edison… ‘Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.’


© Emma Wortt of Em-powering Executives, 2009. All Rights Reserved. Em-powering Executives help leaders and their teams to achieve excellence through executive coaching and training. To receive similar articles direct to your inbox, you can subscribe to the FREE monthly Em-powering Executives newsletter at http://www.em-poweringexecutives.co.uk

The Main Reason Why People Quit

1191576_colors_abstract1Why do so many people quit diet or exercise programs after a few weeks or days? Have they lost their desire? Have they become unmotivated? I say the answer is no.

If you asked someone who quit a program if they still wanted to feel healthier, look youthful and be attractive, my bet is that they would definitely say that they did. I mean, if they wanted something badly a few weeks ago, I don’t think that this wish suddenly went away.

No; a decrease in motivation is not what causes most people to quit. I believe that the desire is always there, but that it eventually gets overwhelmed by all the aggravation – all the annoying stuff that comes along with the new lifestyle – until they can’t take any more. In the first few days, they haven’t yet had to deal with much aggravation, and so their desire is unimpeded. This is why health clubs are always full of new members in January.

But unfortunately, there is just so much annoying stuff out there – and so many types of it – that for many people, the desire just hasn’t got a chance of outweighing it in the long term. I don’t think it’s worth even trying.

I think a better option is to keep the amount of aggravation as low as possible. This, I believe, is where we should concentrate our efforts. Not on artificially pumping ourselves full of “motivation!”

Let me give you just one example, which is simply getting to the gym in the first place. Usually when people say things like, “I haven’t got the time to exercise”, it really means that they haven’t got the time to spend driving to the gym, battling traffic, hunting for parking and driving back again.

This is a fair point. Even if we had unlimited time, it just doesn’t make sense to me to spend an hour or more on travelling, just for a 45-minute workout. The answer, obvious as it may sound, is to choose your gym based primarily on proximity and ease of transport.

Even though this does sound trivial, you’d be surprised how many people don’t do this. They may join a gym that’s far away because it’s the most modern, or has the best equipment, or simply because they want to train where their friends train.

Don’t you make that mistake. Choose a gym that you can get to easily and quickly – one that won’t involve your being stuck in a car getting angry and stressed out.

And don’t let yourself be led by price. Don’t make the mistake of joining a gym that’s far away and a nightmare to get to just in order to save some money on membership. It’s usually a false economy anyway; if you never get any use from the gym then it is very expensive, no matter how little it costs.

If you don’t have any gyms you can use, you can train in your garage, with just a couple of dumbbells and a bench. Some of my own best results have come from garage training.

I believe it’s important to make your new lifestyle as easy and low maintenance as possible. So always be on the lookout for anything that will remove a source of aggravation, no matter how small. You see, you need to be lazy if you want to succeed.

“Huh? How can you succeed at anything by being lazy?”

Good question. It’s not that I’m against working hard; it’s simply that I believe in saving that hard work for your training.

My view is that you have limited amounts of time, patience and energy, and I want you to spend those on things that are going to give you results.

Remember, it’s very easy, especially in the modern world, to constantly be “busy”, but never actually achieve anything. Aim to do only those things that will really help you succeed; the rest is just a distraction.


Dr. Nick Hallale is the author of “A Stomach Like a Greek Statue,” an e-book containing all the secrets to getting a perfect flat stomach. Get his free tips now by visiting http://www.Apollo-Program.com/FlatStomachBook

Finding the Spark of Motivation for Success

1129426_floral_designTo drift without knowing what it is you want and desire is death. To simply yearn for a better future will never bring it about. Though many realize this fundamental truth, they continue to drift along, hoping something will move them toward their dreams. Unfortunately it never happens.

The motivation to better your circumstances cannot come from an outside source, whether it comes from the end of a gun or the necessity to act to avoid losing your home. The only person who can motivate is you. The only person who can make life better is you. Fear and doubt are mind killers and squelch any desire you may have to reach your fondest dreams. But the fear to act, the fear of failure is in itself the final failure.

There are many who have abandoned hope, their youthful dreams shattered. Have your dreams become a memory? Or do you still long for some kind of redemption, an angel that will turn back the clock so you can start over again?

Face the truth. It’s not easy to make a self-assessment. In order to succeed in any stage of life you must:

1.Know what it is you really want.

2.Have a plan you can take steps every day to reach your goal.

3.See the ultimate goal, the big picture, and how it can impact your life.

4.Make improvements in the areas you lack. This calls for education and taking the time to learn. Experience is the best teacher and you can learn so much more simply by trying.

5.Stay motivated no matter what circumstances you find yourself in.

Getting motivated and staying that way means more than getting out of bed and driving to work. While you must be able to find those factors within you that gets you moving, your focus should be on what the results of what your motivated life will do to those around you. Your family, a friend in desperate need of help can give you that impetus to do something to relieve the problem. To be motivated requires you to set aside selfishness and take up an attitude of service to others.

The very purpose of life is to learn and grow. You can never entertain the thought that you have “made it” so you can relax and once again drift with the tide. You can only grow in the company of the world and its citizens. No one can learn anything without help or help someone else.

People exist to help and motivate one another. Conflicts will always arise, but it is the way you handle them that helps you learn. Thus your motivation should become the driving force that helps you and others.

Make it a point to uplift the spirits of those around you. In so doing you motivate yourself and make others want to help you reach your dreams.

Find your motivating force. Keep it foremost in your mind. See how it can benefit the ones you love most. Only then will you avoid the life of death that so many live today.


The author is a freelance writer who has had several articles published at Helium, Suite 101 and his blog on Word Press. Currently he lives in Ottawa, Canada and promotes an affiliate business where anyone can buy and sell products, ebooks and more. To get more information, go to: http://www.tripleclicks.com/71130/go