Small Daily Practices Lead To Big Life Changes

Here is a story that points out how beginning very small daily practices can create big change in only a little over a week. “Larry” came to work with me because he had suddenly lost his job, and felt overwhelmed, depressed, and lost. He wondered if he should start his own solopreneur business, and was looking for ideas and help. As I scanned his energy, though, I could easily discern that he had more going on than losing his work.

At the age of 42 he still lived with his mother, saying that he did so to help take care of her since she is slightly impaired. When I asked him how he saw that fitting for him, he said “I am waiting for her to die so that I will be free.” He had remained in very low-paying work even though he has accomplished very high results in his work. His dream is to travel the world but he has never owned a passport. Continue reading

Solopreneurs: Stop Marketing and Tell Your Story

265794_eye2I teach my clients the power of telling their own story as they start their own businesses, with this phrase: Your Truth Will Set Them Free. This is one of the biggest neon light mistakes that I see helping professionals make.
They believe that this has nothing to do with them. “I need to focus on the clients and what the clients need. I need to make sure that I’m looking at their problems and their struggles and I’m working towards it.” They don’t tell their stories.

There’s nothing that I hate more than going to someone’s website or reading their marketing materials and reading a bio. Everybody goes, “But I’m supposed to have a bio on my website. I’m supposed to have an ‘About Me’ on my website.”

Bios are credentials and, for the most part, pretty boring. What is fascinating, what enables you to connect with someone and enables you to really care about someone and discover empathy, is when you tell your story. This is so vitally important when you are building relationships with potential clients.

Don’t tell the Cinderella version, tell the ugly step-sister, the warped version. It is your mistakes that really are going to leverage your clients to their own success.

For example, I’ll share that I did some things in the beginning of my business that, had I known what I know now, I certainly would have done them differently.

I worked way too hard in the beginning. Way too hard! I put in a lot of hours that were not necessary. I will admit to that. I also took on every client that came my way. If I could nab them, I took them. That was something that didn’t serve me well in the long run.

I also followed the marketing “gurus”. I believed that if I just do everything exactly their way, this would work for me. The result was that I was exhausted, a little bit confused, and really frustrated. What happened was I didn’t have a core message.

I thought, “I’ve got to have a name. It’s got to be cute. It’s got to appeal to people. It’s got to be as big as Pepsi and Coca-Cola.”

That only made me exhausted. It came to the point where I really stopped trying to create this business that seemed like a 24-story building in some imaginary business land. I just said, “This is who I am. The best thing that I have to offer is me.”

Your truth will set them free. Your journey, your mistakes, how you overcame obstacles and your conclusions, this is the insight your clients are looking for.

You know that your bio is about everything that you’ve accomplished. Maybe you have 67 credentials and maybe you talk about where you went to school. Maybe it’s talking about your kids or your family – and those things are important as well. People like to hear about them.

But what’s most important is: Why you? What’s your story? If you’re going to work with parents having difficulties with their kids and you’re going to be a parenting coach, what’s your story in that? Why are you coming to this area? What do you have to bring to other parents?

Was it that you struggled as being a parent and now you really made a turn and now you can share this with other people? Was it that you had an extraordinary parenting situation that maybe wasn’t so pleasant but taught you a lot that you can now share with others?

If you’re a health coach, what’s your story around health? You wouldn’t be drawn to something that you don’t have a story about or that you don’t have a stake in or something in your life didn’t bring you to it.

If you answer, “Oh, I don’t know what my story is,” I ask you to really dig deep. It’s there. It may be covered up or it may be something that you’re afraid to share, but it’s definitely there. Share your story. It is what opens people up to wanting to work with you.


Suzanne Evans is best known as the ‘action expert’ and has coached hundreds of solopreneurs to model her multiple six figure business. Learn how you can help more people, make more money and have more fun doing what you love by signing up for your free copy of the 5-Part Mini-Course ‘Awakening Your Authentic Entrepreneur’ at http://www.helpmorepeople.com

Solopreneurs: Are You Looking Left and Right?

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By Suzanne Evans

I used to be a professional water skier in a former life.  (OK, I will dig up a picture at some point) and when skiing in a lineup, it is important to keep looking straight ahead to keep clean lines and not run into someone.  I always struggled with this.  If I am talking to you I need to look at you.  Have you ever driven with someone who turns their head to talk WHILE driving?  It can be scary.

I see helpingpreneurs do this in business all the time.  They look left and right to see what everyone else is doing.  They seek out approval behind them and catch a peak to see who is ahead so they can go into “catch up” mode.  And just like driving in the car, it makes for a scary situation.  And why are we looking left and right?  Competition.

“Every man in the world is better than someone else and not as good someone else.” Author: William Saroyan

No other business can be like yours.  YOU are what makes your service, product, or program uniquely yours.   There is no competition.  I know that is hard to remember at times, and even I have found myself rushing many times to do what someone else did.  I find that when I catch myself, I realize it is my own insecurity or fear sneaking up and I let it guide me.  When I listen to my intuition, I know that it is just my subconscious playing tricks on me… trying to get me to believe old stories that are not true.

When I breathe (thank you Life Coach Mary) and recognize what the truth is, I know that looking to the left and right does not serve me. I can only run my best race, serve my clients, and be in joy when I look straight ahead – that’s my goal line.

So here are a few pointers to keep you from judging and comparing yourself, so that the BEST you and the AUTHENTIC you is always present.

1. When in doubt, hold your hand up in front of you.  Look at your fingertips.  No one else has those.  Only you.  Remember there is no competition.  There is no comparison.  There is only YOU.  Look straight ahead.

2. Feeling behind?  Stop and take stock.  Can you really be behind in business?  Whose rules are you following?  This is a great time to look at your goals, give your vision board a makeover, or start a treasure map.  This is your business, your life, your mission.  You are only behind if you are doing it someone else’s way.  Look straight ahead.

3. Be grateful. You simply cannot feel competitive, angry, or envious if you are in a state of gratefulness.  I just grab a sheet of paper and go- set a time for 10 minutes and write gratefuls until the time is up and it simply changes your entire perspective.  Look straight ahead.

You can’t help more people looking left and right.  Stay on purpose – look ahead and keep changing the world!

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Suzanne Evans is best known as the ‘action expert’ and has coached hundreds of solopreneurs to model her multiple six figure business. Learn how you can help more people, make more money and have more fun doing what you love by signing up for your free copy of the 5-Part Mini-Course ‘Awakening Your Authentic Entrepreneur’ at http://www.helpmorepeople.com

Photo: Ivan Vicencio