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Breaking The Bonds Of Limiting Influence

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By John Halderman

If you are wanting to live your life uniquely, your own way, doing what you are here to do, you will need to take a good look at what is influencing you day in and day out. Your family, friends, groups and society all can influence your life usually beyond your awareness. Most people operate within what is considered normal in our society. People tend to go away from discomfort and pain, seeking comfort however they can, which usually means not wanting to feel the wrath of disapproval for doing something out of the ordinary.

The fact that most people are influenced greatly by others keeps them living a life where they are striving to feel good and be happy, but in ways that don’t bring long lasting results of either. If you are influenced to behave like the masses by the masses, what has happened to your unique inner drive? It is sniffled because it does not fit into the norm, and you have allowed yourself to go the more comfortable route, keeping in alignment with those around you.

There is something we are each intended to do, and we get thoughts and feelings about this, but usually cover it up. We think it can’t be done, because it doesn’t look like the life we are now living. The life we have fallen into by listening to and watching the masses rather than our heart and inner guidance is not usually close to our passion and purpose.

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Losing the Last 10 Pounds

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By Jason Kozma

The holidays are long gone. New Year’s resolutions are long forgotten. And we are once again lamenting that those “extra ten pounds” just won’t go away. Personal trainers and nutritionists across the country say they get more questions on how to lose the final 10 pounds than on any other fitness-related subject. They say that most people want a quick fix or a crash diet and don’t want to hear that it takes a combination of diet and exercise to get rid that extra fat.
Fitness experts say that working out in the gym won’t do the trick. In other words, you won’t fit into that magical number jean size you’ve always wanted or minimize a ‘problem’ area by spending an hour a day on a treadmill. Losing weight and getting a toned body is a process and a proper diet and exercise is the key to getting into that hot little black dress.

Here are ten tips experts offer on how to get there faster.

1. Don’t skip your meals and especially breakfast. You have to jump-start your metabolism, so your fat burns faster.

2. Log your food. That will make you aware your eating habits. You will surprised how much more you actually consume once you look at your logs.

3. Look through your logs and see where you could make different choices. Small changes can go a long way to losing the last ten pounds and those small changes will add up quickly.

4. Eat every 3 hours.

5. Eating 5-6 times a day will maximize your energy and stabilize your blood sugar so you won’t be hungry.

6. Eat foods that will optimize your metabolism like high fiber foods, low fat foods, and lean proteins.

7. Eat your carbs early in the day so your body gets a chance to burn them.

8. Make working out a priority.

9. Take a “before” picture of yourself and put it in a visible place. Having that ‘before’ photo is a huge motivation to stick to your plan.

10. Just do it!

Unless you are a super motivated individual, you will want to hire a personal trainer to guide you through your weight loss process and help monitor the progress. Make sure your trainer creates a nutriton plan that optimizes high quality, natural foods, not pre-packaged or frozen meals.

Having an expert to navigate the diet and exercise landscape can make the difference between baring your shoulders at your high school reunion or not making it, and faking a cold.


Jason Kozma owns a Los Angeles Weight Loss program in Southern California. Jason and his High Performance Weight Loss Team are helping residents all over Southern California lose weight and get in the best shape of their lives. Find out more by visiting Los Angeles Weight Loss

Your Relationships Are a Mirrored Reflection of You

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1159618_eye_series“Each relationship you have with another person reflects the relationship you have with yourself.” – Alice Deville.

You have a lot of personal and professional relationships in your life. Some relationships are loving, satisfying, uplifting, supportive and enrich your life experience. You love spending time with these people. They motivate and inspire you. Other relationships are tense, adversarial, problematic, strained, and exhausting. You don’t like, or avoid, spending time with the people who drain the life energy right out of you. The funny thing is that all of your relationships, good and bad, are a reflection of you!

How can that be?

It’s very simple, really. You love the good relationships that you have because these people reflect what you like about yourself. They’re kind, giving, nice, loyal, fun to be with, and all of the other attributes that you enjoy when you’re involved in a good relationship. You dislike the people you have difficulty with because they reflect the parts of you that you don’t like. In these people you see something in them, however tiny or large, that you don’t like about yourself. If they’re needy, they remind you of the times when you have been needy. If they’re rude, they’re a reminder of the pain you caused others by your own rudeness. If they’re annoying they bring out the annoyer in you. If they are liars, they remind you of the time you lied, how that felt and the damage that lie may have caused you or others.

Pay particular attention to the people who bother you, get under your skin, for no apparent reason. These people reflect something within you that you have been unwilling to see.

I’ll give you an example.

Several years ago I had a business associate, Naomi, who irritated the heck out of me. Naomi was a nice enough person, never hurt me, but every time I saw her my skin crawled. If she said, “Hi. How are you?” I wanted to run in the other direction. Any time she called with a business related question or invitation I couldn’t get off the phone fast enough. Naomi frequently invited me to networking events and I always found some excuse to decline. For some unexplained reason I just didn’t want to be around this woman.

Yes, I Found Excuses And Reasons (F.E.A.R.) not to like her. To me, Naomi was a pushy, needy, wishy-washy person who just wanted to cling onto me to advance her career. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I had been a pushy, needy, wishy-washy person who clung onto other people to advance my early career. I’d grown up a lot since then and was no longer that person, yet I definitely once was that girl. And now Naomi was reflecting that behavior back to me. And it bothered me to even think of her. I did not want to be reminded that I, too, was once at that very same place in my personal journey of self-awareness and development.

You love what is reflected back to you that you love within you. You dislike what is reflected back to you that you dislike within you. You are neutral to what is presented to you that is not a reflection of you.

Examine your relationships with the people in your life. Identify the attributes you love and like in the people you have a good relationship with. You hold these attributes too. Acknowledge and own them. Love that part of you. Identify the attributes you don’t like in the people you have a bad, or troubled, relationship with. You hold these attributes too. Acknowledge and own them. Have compassion and forgiveness for that part of yourself and of the other person for each of you are only doing the best you can given the light you have to see. Granted, some people have fewer batteries in their flashlight than others! Yet they are still doing the best they can. No one deliberately decides to exhibit unwanted behavior. Learn the lesson to add a few more volts to that flashlight of yours. Every relationship, good and bad, brings gifts in the lessons and the light they offer to you. Cherish the gift. It will empower you as you continue to move forward in the direction of living your rich delicious life.

“Life is a succession of lessons, which must be lived to be understood.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Copyright © 2009 Valery Satterwhite; Valery is the Founder of the International Association for Inner Wizards. Reaffirm the integrity of your own being. Within you lies all the knowledge about who you are, including your challenges and desires. Our ultimate mission is to reconnect you with the power that is already within you and to encourage you to recognize it, use it and rely upon it in your life. Get free eBooklet “Discover Your Inner Wizard” today at http://www.InnerWizard.com

The Key Driver of Creative Success

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1198531_lime_and_sodaWhat drives you to succeed as a creative person? Is it the dream of fame, wealth and recognition? Is the thought of seeing your name up in lights what propels you out of bed in the morning? Having such a strong and clear goal is a definite motivator and, if you work hard and pay your dues, you can absolutely achieve that goal. However, if you want to be successful without the feeling that you are battling your way through life your motivation to get out of that comfy bed in the morning has to come from somewhere else. There must be an even bigger motivating driver.

To have ambition and want to be successful is a fine thing but it isn’t enough. Ambition and want are just words that describe desire. To understand WHY you have such desires is quite another thing. True genius, true art in any form, comes from passion. Great actors aren’t great because of their technique. Anyone can learn technique. They move an audience as great actors because of their passion. Passion is the driver that motivates every bone and breath in your body to achieve.

“My passions were all gathered together like fingers that made a fist. Drive is considered aggression today; I knew it then as purpose.” – Bette Davis

If your desires are not in alignment with your passion you can be successful but you will not be fulfilled, satisfied. You will live a rich famous life and still yearn for the elusive thing. You will get up in the morning wondering what is wrong with you. You have all that you desired yet you feel that there is still something missing. You are missing the nourishment that feeds your soul, your heart.

Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions, then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart. When work, dedicated commitment, and pleasure unite to become one and you reach into that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible. Through the experience of devoted passion you will reap richer stores of knowledge than any text-book or course of study can give you.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

This dedication to authentic passion always and absolutely carries a demand and a responsibility. It is up to you to honor and stand centered in the truth of who you are. Speak and act in the direction of your innermost passions. If you do not, you are betraying your own authenticity. If you are Finding Excuses And Reasons (F.E.A.R.) why you cannot pursue your passion you are hiding your true estate. You are acting in bad faith. You are ‘dissing’ you.

Now it must be said that passion without action is just a dream. You actualize your passion, bring forth the dream into the world, you must do something! This is where the Inner Critic can, and often does, step in to hold you back. What if you really put yourself ‘out there’ and stood naked to the world boldly following your heart’s desire and fail? What will happen then? Will you just whither and die? If not, who will you be? Very scary thoughts!

You will not die. Your commitment to your truth and passion will motivate you to respect your actions and your reaction to the opinions of others. Failure is just a stepping stone on the road to success. Your passion will motivate you to look at the proverbial rocks you tripped over, examine them, and overcome whatever obstacles that get in your way. You will love the process of making mistakes, learning and growing as you expand and fully express your passion and talents that are your birthright. Whatever struggles you encounter will be met enthusiastically for they are definitely worth the ride of your life!

“Our passions are the winds that propel our vessel. Our reason is the pilot that steers her. Without winds the vessel would not move and without a pilot she would be lost.” – Proverb

Copyright © 2009 Valery Satterwhite; Valery is an Artist Mindset Mentor who helps creative people get out of their own way so that they can overcome the struggles that often come packaged with the life of a visual & performing artist. Clients learn how to express their full potential deliberately & responsibly to create more passionately, profoundly, productively and profitably. Empower the Wizard Within to express your full creative potential. http://www.InnerWizard.com Free tips!

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