“T-Power #3 — Uncovering Cautionary Thinking” — (It’s All About The Thinking)

1156545_cloudy_ridge_1Cautionary thinking allows you to say, “Whoa Nellie. Let’s take a deep breath and see what worries us.” What you are trying to achieve threatens your very survival — you personally, your professional stature, and your company. You need to think carefully about implications of your plans and actions. Failing to perform cautionary thinking leads you into “a world of trouble.” Quite simply, the unexpected gets you where it hurts.

STARTING POINT — Again, be certain you have selected your thinking-focus. It could be the same focus you used with informational and emotional thinking. However, because you are learning how to think and how to CHANGE your thinking, you are free to choose another focus.


Many people approach cautionary thinking timidly. They begin by thinking about what do we need to do to avoid failing in this endeavor. They look for obstacles and hurdles to overcome. Then, they work systematically toward the future to examine each place that requires being careful. It works.
For me, I begin with the farthest possibility. How do I need to plan for extraordinary success? If the vision is clear, then I need to picture the greatest success I desire. With this approach, I move as far into the future as I am comfortable. Then, I work backwards with my cautionary thinking.

WHAT TO CONSIDER — Certainly, none of us knows the future. Certainly, none of us likes to fail. However, most of us have had many chances to experience failure. Some of us are even experts at dealing with failure. You know the routine — “pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on.” However, if you start your thinking at success, gigantic success, OPRAH Effect success, you will most likely detect everything that could make you cautionary.

People First — As always, questions are your friend. People are always my first concern. I want to know how gigantic success will affect me, my family, the people I hold dear. What changes will I confront? What changes will increased income pose? What changes will decreased-demands-on-my-time create? What changes will success create for my value system?

Company Second — After I finish my thinking about the people, I move to my company. With gigantic success, for what does the company, its people, need to prepare. How will this success change our company vision? What values are threatened? What new policies must be established? How will success change our customer relationships?

Planning Third — When I know what is at stake with the people and the company and when I believe I have all of the “be careful signs” on the exploratory table, I can then design forward to the future. I take each “caution” and explore it for the problems it will create, the obstacles it will present, the difficulties it will produce, and the dangers it will summon. Sometimes working through this “caution” analysis requires considerable time. Yet, as you work through the “cautions,” watch to see how many of the cautions you might have missed had you thought in the traditional manner of preventing failure.

Slowly, the design or map of all the things I expect to encounter in achieving my desired vision of the future, my gigantic success, emerges. I see the sequencing. I see the relationships among the cautions. I see how the dots are connected. I understand the risks. I even know if the phone system can handle the success. I now have a complete picture of what I and my company must deal with in preparation for the success we anticipate.

IN THE END — Cautionary thinking is the most important of all the thinking de Bono explains. For this thinking, maybe because it springs from survival thinking, de Bono assigns Black Hat status. In art, the color black emerges when all other colors are combined — maybe de Bono had that in mind as well. As the Black Hat sits more and more comfortably on your head, share your learning and understanding with others. Caution, when acknowledged and dealt with, enables greater success. Plan for gigantic success.


Virginia L. McBride, The Haven Maven Founder, EPROW Images Creator, “IT’S ALL ABOUT THE THINKING” Virginia builds personalized “thinking environments” to strengthen innovative thought. Working with EPROW Images, clients identify what worries them. Caution, when acknowledged and dealt with, enables greater success. To qualify for a free 30-minute consultation, submit a “pitch” through EPROW’s PAPPY program => http://www.eprowimages.com

“T-Power #2 — Expressing Emotional Thinking” — (It’s All About The Thinking)

1194317_wooden_combEmotional thinking sits opposite informational thinking. Experience colors emotional thinking. Attitudes and assumptions also color emotional thinking. Yet, rarely do we venture to share our emotional thinking with others. The fear of attack and ridicule for even having emotional thoughts paralyzes many of even the greatest thinkers. None of us wants to be the fool. However, if emotional thoughts are not laid on the exploratory table, they simply lie in wait inside each of us. The thoughts, if unexpressed, skew the thinking of the entire group. They hide in dark corners of our beings. They explode unexpectedly if suppressed.

STARTING POINT— If you have not already identified the focus of your thinking — an issue, a problem, an idea, a challenge, a need, a suggestion, an opportunity, — pick one. Also, if you have trouble knowing what emotions are available to you, conduct a search on “list of emotions.” I know that every time I do this search, I find I have added some new emotions to my personal list.

In your search, you will encounter “Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions” which identifies basic emotions and their basic opposites. You will also see advanced emotions which are combinations of basic emotions. Then, you will see the advanced opposites. You may also encounter Parrot’s tree of emotions (changingminds.org). Parrot categorizes the emotions into primary, secondary, and tertiary. You may also encounter Lobjan (an artificial language) emotions, a list which explores degrees of emotions. The list includes simple emotions, complex emotions, and pure emotions. If you are really a person who deals with true emotional subtleties, explore the propositional attitudes and the complex propositional attitudes.

At this point, you have identified your thinking focus and you have a list of emotions that works for you. Now, the fun-work begins. Watch for what you learn about yourself. Please, share what you learn with others.

WHAT ARE THE COMPONENTS — Using your thinking focus, you will now disassemble your focus into its components. Questions you ask will guide you toward your best emotional thinking. What aspects of achievement compose my choice? What are the parts of the mission statement? What are the parts of the value statements? Who are the customers that are involved? What competencies are needed for success? Let your list evolve. Add to it whenever something new occurs to you.

DEALING WITH PEOPLE — As you identify the components, you want the ones to surface about which you have emotional thoughts, especially strong emotional thoughts. In my world, people are first with me. Who might I need to deal with in achieving success? What feelings do I have about each of these people, even if the feelings are only intuitive? After I assess my feelings about the people, I move on to competencies? However, competencies connect with people. Therefore, I ask a two-pronged emotional-thinking question. Whose skill with which competency concerns me emotionally?

DEALING WITH EVERYTHING ELSE — Finally, I deal with everything other than people. Here, I start with the vision of the future. I list everything I can think about which I have emotional feelings, regardless of the intensity of those feelings. I dump everything onto my emotional-thinking pad. Here I want to dig as deeply as possible so I can uncover any emotion that may be hiding in the background.

MOVING INTO THE FUTURE — Then, as a project materializes, I return repeatedly to check for any changes in my emotional thinking. For those that go unresolved at any point, I need to deal with them, especially if the emotions arise from intuition, hunches, gut feelings, or even opinions. For those that deal with long-term satisfaction and success, they must be resolved or the project is in jeopardy. In all, I must resist the temptation to justify or explain my emotions. I need only to be honest with myself. This personal honesty is the first step toward being emotionally honest with others.

Emotional thinking is the most un-neutral of all the thinking de Bono identifies. For this thinking, because of its fire and passion, de Bono assigns Red Hat status. As the Red Hat sits more and more comfortably on your head, share your learning and understanding with others. Emotions, in the open, build greater trust.


Virginia L. McBride, The Haven Maven Founder, EPROW Images Creator, “IT’S ALL ABOUT THE THINKING” Virginia builds personalized “thinking environments” to strengthen innovative thought. Working with EPROW Images, clients identify their feelings about their focus-thinking. Emotions, in the open, build greater trust. To qualify for a free 30-minute consultation, submit a “pitch” through EPROW’s PAPPY program => http://www.eprowimages.com


Be In Bliss All The Time Through Finding Your Life Purpose

271029_three-way_routeWhat is life if it is not lived, lived well, and lived with purpose? How many people randomly go through their lives without giving much thought to what they are doing here on this planet or what they should, perhaps, be doing?

While it may take some time to perform the kind of introspective self examination required to discover your life purpose, it is time well spent, because living your life with purpose increases the value of that life exponentially. Every minute that you spend living with purpose is a minute valued and appreciated, utilized and lived fully.

Why should you devote the time to focusing on and discovering your life purpose? Let us count the ways . . .

1. Discovering the life purpose that is already buried deep within you can make all the difference in the quality of your life. It can re-awaken your zest for living, get you excited about every day and what it will bring, invigorate you to live each day to the fullest, and inspire you to be your very best.

2. Where now you are feeling restless and uncertain, knowing your life purpose will give you direction and focus. Every activity you engage in, each task you decide to take on, the skills you decide to learn, the courses you take, and the decisions you make will all have a common theme that validates your choices based on your underlying (or overriding, depending on how you approach it) life purpose.

3. Having a life purpose and knowing your life purpose brings passion and joy to your life. Living a life without happiness is such a waste. But living a life with purpose is the very definition of happiness.

4. Living your life with purpose will motivate you to take action, to plan out your days and weeks and months, and then to fulfil those plans to achieve something great and not just wander through each day like it is an effort to get through it. It will bring with it a realization that you are more than just your day-to-day activities and choices. You and your life are the sum of all these activities and choices, and each one is a building block in the construction of your life work.

5. Knowing your life purpose will clarify your priorities. Suddenly, with a big passion and goal to pursue, you will have a measuring stick by which you can judge and evaluate everything else. It will help you make easier and wiser decisions about what to do and what not to do and what to do first even on a daily basis. It will cause you to focus on the important things of life, not just the urgent things. It will help you make better choices.


So what are you waiting for? Don’t just stumble through life, living without purpose or meaning. Take the time to focus on you and your dreams, desires, passions, and motivations and do the introspective work it will take to identify and articulate your life purpose! It will very literally change your life! For more information please visit www.Finding-Your-Life-Purpose.com

Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) at Work

613768_playing_with_fireLife at work can be difficult for many people with adult Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). You may find yourself feeling chronically disorganized and stressed out at the office. Here are 5 quick tips for managing your ADD challenges at work:

1. Manage your stress both in and out of work. Many of you know what I always say about stress: Stress Management = ADD Management! The more stressed out you are, the harder it is to be on time, stay organized, focus, and get along well with others. Real Life Example: One client I work with locks herself in the ladies room and meditates when things get stressful at work.

2. Clearly separate your personal and professional time. When you mix your personal and professional lives, you open yourself up to more stress, and a lack of focus results. Stay in the present moment. Focus on personal matters at home, and leave professional matters at the office. Real Life Example: A former client instructs his wife, kids, and friends NOT to email him at work. Instead, he directs them to his personal email account, which he only checks at home.

3. Take a lunch (or other break.) While it’s tempting to work through lunch when the pressure is on, this isn’t always the best choice for an adult with ADD. Because we have a low tolerance for frustration, we need to relax and recharge periodically during the day in order to function optimally. Real Life Example: When I worked in a corporate office, I took advantage of my employer-sponsored gym membership and worked out during my lunch hour. This helped me burn off stress, and increased my energy for the afternoon. Now that I work from home, I take my dogs for a long walk during my lunch break. (Yes, I’m talking about little Rascal and Trixie, who are now TV stars in their own right, thanks to The TODAY Show!)


4. Work with your natural energy flow. Pay attention to how you feel during the day, and you will soon discover that there are certain times in your day when you consistently feel alert, energized, and focused. Take advantage of these times! Use them to work on projects that require more brainpower or sustained focus. Real Life Example: One client avoids scheduling meetings for 60 minutes after she eats lunch. For about one hour after eating, she feels tired and has a hard time concentrating. Rather than struggling to pay attention during these times, she does her best to avoid placing herself into a difficult situation.

5. Take 15 minutes every day to plan your time and to-dos. The key to time management (and project management) is planning in advance. To-do lists are essential, because they help you keep track of what’s going on. Scheduling your day helps you feel more in control of your time, and helps you set realistic expectations for what you can accomplish. Real Life Example: I recommend that EVERY adult with ADD take 15 minutes a day–every day– to review your to-do list and plan your day in advance. I do it, too! How do you manage your ADD on the job?


Copyright © 2009 Jennifer Koretsky; Jennifer Koretsky is the Founder of the ADD Management Group, LLC, author of Odd One Out: The Maverick’s Guide to Adult ADD, and Co-Founder of the Virtual AD/HD Conference. Jennifer and her team work with ADD adults who are overwhelmed with everyday life in order to help them simplify, focus, and succeed. To learn more, visit http://www.ADDmanagement.com .

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Want Nothing – Prefer to Have it All

1194808_freeing_the_fairiesA number of years ago, a friend of mine asked me if I was happy. I replied that I was 100% happy at the time, to which she responded “Oh, that’s very sad!” I went on to explain to her that one finds happiness within (where else would you expect to find it?) and that my being happy didn’t mean that I didn’t want to achieve more, that I didn’t want more of all the good things that life has to offer.

I used the word “want” but, in truth, what I meant was “prefer”. You see, generally speaking, we haven’t got a clue as to what we really want. And although one so-called personal development expert recently told me that that is why most people are unhappy and unsuccessful (that they don’t know what they want), how could the normal mind know what their heart really, really desires, when all the other normal people around them are judging their happiness and success in terms of how they compare to all the other normal people? Indeed, some people who single-mindedly knew what they wanted are some of history’s worst nightmares. Adolf Hitler knew what he wanted – in the end it was good for neither him nor anyone else. Pol Pot was single-minded in the pursuit of his goals as was Josef Stalin. These are not the type of people we should aspire to be!

No. Want for nothing. Indeed, even if all hell is breaking out around you at this moment, if you pause for reflection you will discover an eternal truth – that all is well in this moment, you have everything you need for the perfect life, here in this now. Therefore, the single-mindedness you need is a commitment and determination to live life to the full in the present moment, to engross yourself in the task in hand, to invest more and more of your energy into the here and now.

Quantum physics proves that if you invest more of your energy in the present moment, you will get what you want. It works for people like Nelson Mandela just as much as it worked for Adolf Hitler. Energy in – energy out. Psychology also proves that if you pay attention to the present moment, you will achieve success and peace of mind.


If these are scientific facts, then you need to make absolutely sure that you know what you want – because it could be the worst thing in the world for you and others. The old saying “be careful what you wish for” is more than an appropriate quote at this stage! And that is why I say that you should want for nothing. You should have preferences to which you are neither attached nor which distract you from the wonder of the here and now. Preferences rather than wants or needs point you in the right direction but don’t rope you in to a destination to which, if you don’t arrive, you will be unhappy. Preferences are like an inner compass – and if you find that the needle points to somewhere that’s bad for you or bad for others, then you can always re-chart your course.

Prefer what’s best for you. Neither you nor I know what’s best for us but, having that preference as our “goal in life” is the best way of ensuring that your mind doesn’t dwell on what you don’t currently have and, in doing so, enables your mind to become more and more focused on the present moment.

And it is the present moment which is of paramount importance. It is where you are right now. It is the only place in which you can be your best, be at your most effective. Scientific fact states that it is the only time and place there is. It is the time and place in which the responsive energy of the universe will respond to your heart’s desires – if you only get your wants and needs out of the way (those wants and needs block your ability to focus your energy in the present moment).

So, focus your mind here and now. Come to your senses – you have five of them, use them to appreciate and more fully experience the present moment. If it turns you on (because, in fact, that’s what we’re talking about) use meditation as a means of disciplining your mind to experience the present moment. There are other ways, but meditation is cool! You see sporting greats use age-old breathing exercises to steady their minds to enable them do their very best in just that moment. If it’s good enough for them, it’s good enough for you and me!

Whatever path you choose towards cultivating your ability to experience the wonder of the here and now, choose to be all that you can be – here and now. The past is a foreign country and the future are nows that are yet to come. Each now along the way is all we have – prefer to be here.


Copyright © 2009 Willie Horton; Willie’s work in the area of self-improvement and meditation has been described as “life-changing” and “phenomenal” by clients from every walk of life. His acclaimed two-day personal development workshop is now available online at Gurdy.Net

Photo: Bev Lloyd-Roberts