Motivation – Go Do It!

By Sharon Eden

I’m cooking new things in my world about which I feel excited and energised. However, I also feel shaky and sometimes downright scared at the same time! What me? Ooooh yes! What if I mess up? What if people don’t like what I do? Or even… what if I succeed? No, not that! What will I do then?

And once upon a time those feelings would have deterred me. Once upon a time I would have, and indeed did, create excuses for not doing what I wanted to do because I was so frightened by the prospect of doing it. I sometimes even used my ex-husband as an excuse because, for sure, he disapproved of many of the things I already did. Hence the ‘ex’!

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“T-Power #7 — Preparing People To Think” — (It’s All About The Thinking)

1213117_teen_girl_with_laptopWhen Edward DeBono conceived his “Six Thinking Hats,” he envisioned a framework that functions well for individuals, for teams, for groups, for communities, and for organizations. However, people, even today, have little experience with thinking. They have even less training. They can memorize. They can understand what they are told. They can disassemble what others have created. They can apply the thinking of others. They can evaluate the work of others. What they cannot do, with any kind of frequency, is think into the future. Therefore, you must prepare them.

STARTING POINT — You, yourself, first! Ask yourself what you want to achieve or accomplish. Give yourself a future window of at least three years to achieve. Work on this vision, until you feel comfortable that the vision is clear to you. Then, work on it some more to make it simple for others to share your vision. This step involves one part of “book-ends” or Blue Hat thinking — where do I want to get? This step also involves “new-ideas” or Green Hat thinking. Be as wild and crazy as you want in creating your vision.

When you believe you understand what is involved, try to get others to play the “future” game with you. Family, especially children, are good candidates. You can begin with a possible excursion. Ask them to envision doing something they have never done. Encourage them to be wild and crazy. Encourage them to be very specific so that others share the vision. Their vision must be clear and simple.

Children can be your best teachers because they lack the grown-up reality that tells them they can’t! Their enthusiasm and openness to play spreads to others playing the game. Watch to see how children approach the game. Learn from them. Incorporate their game-playing skills into your own envisioning —into your thinking.

At some point, try getting people who report to you or who work with you to play the wild and crazy game of envisioning the future. See what obstacles they manufacture. See where they have lost their sense of play. If they are stiff and fearful, you must inject silliness into the equation. Even though risks to relationships are involved, the sillier the better!

THE MIDDLE STAGE — When you believe your people, including your family, grasp envisioning the future, you can move on to other thinking hats. De Bono identified pairs of hats that work together as partners, not as adversaries. “Informational” (White Hat) thinking and “emotional” (Red Hat) thinking form one partnership. “Cautionary” (Black Hat) thinking and “getting-it-done” (Yellow Hat) thinking form a second partnership. Each partnership creates paths that move thinking from one perspective to another. Nothing magical determines the sequence of the thinking or the hats you choose. Only time will teach you what works for the situations in which you need to think.

Each of these hats reveals steps in the process from your current situation to your future reality. You are free to change hats frequently. Equally, you are free to use the hats in whatever sequence you want. Just recognize and acknowledge what kind of thinking you are doing at any time. Monitor your own process. Identify your comfort and discomfort zones. Strengthen your comfort zones regularly. Master your discomfort zones. Document your own learning so you can understand the struggles of others. Your compassion empowers them.

Do not hurry this middle stage. Details that emerge prevent you from having to “fix-it” later. Be patient. Be thorough. Ask all of the hard questions. Let the map-making take its own course.

IN THE END — With the vision clear and expressed simply and with the details of the processes of getting from where you are to where you want to be solidly in place, you are now at the execute-Execute-EXECUTE stage. Then, for the final hat, return to “book-ends” (Blue Hat) thinking. Identify what you have achieved. How accurate was your vision? What detours did you take? What adjustments did you need to make as you progressed? Document everything you can, especially your learning. Ask your games players to document as well. Celebrate, fully, your achievement. Finally, begin to think about “what next.”


Virginia L. McBride, The Haven Maven Founder, EPROW Images Creator, “IT’S ALL ABOUT THE THINKING” Virginia builds personalized “thinking environments” to strengthen innovative thought. Working with EPROW Images, clients rehearse preparing their important people to think. This rehearsal reduces their fear of thinking. To qualify for a free 30-minute consultation, submit a “pitch” through EPROW’s PAPPY program => http://www.eprowimages.com


Getting Your Potential JV Partner to Say Yes

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One of the most challenging tasks that you will have in forming a joint venture is not finding the right partner, but making the pitch and getting them to say “yes” to your proposal. JVs are not the usual business paradigm that many entrepreneurs and business owners are accustomed. Whether it’s a lack of knowledge or experience, other business owners may be doubtful and unconvinced of the benefits a joint venture can bring to them.

What should your strategy be to approach and convince a potential JV partner? Here are three important elements to keep in mind when you begin your path to JV success:

Build a Relationship

The most important thing about forming a JV partnership is trust in each other. Relationships are the key to any business success. When you approach a potential partner, it’s important that you are likeable and sincere so you gain the trust of the other person.

* Build rapport – Find the common ground. What do you have in common? Are you both in the same industry? Did you go to the same college? From the same state? Find the common ground that will build a connection between the two of you.

* Make them feel important? When you give a compliment or praise, your potential JV partner you make them feel important. Building rapport and making them feel important are great ways to get them open to your ideas.

Teach the Benefits

The best way to overcome skepticism or resistance to a JV is to teach them the benefits. When you help your potential JV partner understand what’s in it for him, it clears a path to the “a-ha” moment when he ponders the possibilities.

* Money money money – Hit on the lucrative points as often as you can. Letting them know that a JV can help them make money with less effort is probably the biggest benefit they will want to know.

* Autonomy – Agreeing to a JV does not mean they are jumping in as 50/50 business partners. They still get to keep their autonomy in running their own business. A JV simply means they will agree to join you in a specific business deal or venture.

Pitch the Proposal and Close the Deal

Once you have a good rapport going and softened the resistance to joint ventures, you are free to move ahead with your specific proposal. What do you want your potential JV partner to do? Give him the broad view of the proposal and then go into specifics on how you think it will be successful.

Don’t forget that your potential JV partner has opinions too. Ask him what he thinks about your proposal and whether he has any ideas to add. Giving them part ownership of the proposal will help them feel more attached to the deal.

Your JV proposal requires the steadiest of hands in convincing a potential JV partner. Your respect and enthusiasm will go a long way in sealing the deal.


Christian Fea is CEO of Synertegic, Inc. A Joint Venture Marketing firm. He exemplifies how to profit from Joint Venture relationships by creating profit centers with minimal risk and maximum profitability.To discover more Joint Venture Marketing Strategies join his free Joint Venture Marketing Wealth Report.

Public Speaking – The Power of Enthusiasm

1147218_spiky_palm_tree_leavesEnthusiasm is a necessary qualification for effective speaking. When you show enthusiasm it is contagious. The enjoyment and knowledge that is demonstrated for your subject will result in increased listener enjoyment and your speech being more convincing.

For public speaking, the enthusiasm required, as described by Coleman Cox, “is inspired by reason, controlled by caution, sound in theory, and practical in application, reflects confidence, spreads good cheer, raises morale, inspires associates, arouses loyalty and laughs at adversity.”

Enthusiasm in public speaking is about being passionate about the subject of your speech and being able to convey it to others. The enthusiasm must be demonstrated in your tome of voice, body language, gestures and facial expressions to transfer it to your audience. The feeling of excitement must come through as you deliver.

Some people are naturally enthusiastic and they are that way because they have developed the necessary habits. You must want to be enthusiastic to become enthusiastic.

Frank Bettger author of “How I Raised Myself from Failure to Success in Selling” attributes his success to enthusiasm. His advice is “act enthusiastically and you’ll be enthusiastic.” By acting on his own advice he put his “heart” into selling and went from failure to the top of his field for several years.


If you are not naturally enthusiastic, it can be created as a result of your attitude and enjoyment of the topic or by believing in a cause. By taking the time to apply the following it is possible to develop enthusiasm:

1. Choosing a positive optimistic nature and attitude

2. By putting your whole heart and soul into every you do

3. Do not let criticism put you off your stride

4. Develop a burning desire in your subject by thinking about it and living it everyday.

5. Have an active interest in people

6. Spend your time with people who are genuinely enthusiastic. Their positive emotions will “rub off” onto you.

Unless you want to be enthusiastic you will never be enthusiastic. If you are ashamed of the topic, or dislike it you will not be able to develop enthusiasm for it. Genuine enthusiasm only comes from something you believe in or enjoy.

One of the factors that contributed to the late John F. Kennedy’s speaking success was the enthusiasm he displayed when delivering his speech. Sure, he had good speechwriters but without his enthusiasm the speeches would not have been nearly as effective. A person conveying their speech in a monotone voice, boring and steady manner will not be as effective at getting their message across.

An enthusiastic delivery can overcome other shortcomings in your presentation. Where you are not naturally enthusiastic it can be developed provide you choose to be. By being genuinely enthusiastic and combined with preparation and knowledge your public speaking will be more confident and effective.

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